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#puttogetherproject post mortem

The Put Together Project

Last month I embarked on a project to challenge myself to take pride in my appearance and raise awareness and funds for mental health issues. I called it the #puttogetherproject and used the hashtag to chronicle my efforts across social media, particularly Instagram. Since the month and the project have wrapped up I figured I should check in with how I did and what I learned.

Out of 30 days I only missed two, which means I’ve donated $40 to my chosen charity, Association québécoise de prévention du suicide. I was also trying to do Set To Stunning’s #NERDVEMBER fashion challenge, but I soon discovered I didn’t have nearly enough nerdy fashion to keep from constantly repeating items.

Although observers probably found my daily selfies the height of narcissism, I did find that keeping myself accountable to social media was a huge part of my success. And while most of my outfits kept to my regular standards of T-shirts and jeans, forcing myself to think about accessories and makeup looks did make the process a little more fun and encouraged me to at least try to be creative. And while I probably won’t continue doing a full face of makeup every single day, I think I can commit to a minimum of BB cream, mascara & balmstain for the days I’m feeling extra lazy.

My 4 Favourite Outfits

#puttogetherproject Top 4 Outfits | Gamerwife.com

My 4 Favourite Looks

#puttogetherproject Top 4 Looks | Gamerwife.com
Some other things I learned:

  • A good fitting blazer instantly makes any outfit look more pulled together and professional.
  • Cream shadow and cream blush are your best friends if you are in a rush/not good at makeup.
  • Bright lipstick is an instant mood booster.
  • There is an art to the selfie that I have yet to master.
  • Even if it takes you four hours to get dressed and washed, it’s still worth it.

I know looking good and feeling good are sort of a chicken and egg argument, but the accountability of this project really did force me to think about how my outward appearance and inner feelings are related. Feeling confident in my appearance did help me to be more social, to trust myself more and to get used to feeling good about myself again. Sure, a new lipstick won’t cure depression, but sometimes it can be enough of a distraction to keep you going until the depression passes. And that’s worth something too.

Thanks so much to everyone who was following along or participating themselves. I’m not sure if we were able to make much of a larger difference, but think it made a difference to me.

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28 Comments

  • Reply
    kaycreate
    December 2, 2014 at 9:46 am

    I loved seeing your selfies! I love looking at other peoples outfits as I tend to use them as inspiration for my own….as somewhat of a style dunce I tend to take inspirations where I can get it haha! Also, loving your new blog pic up there. 🙂

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:10 pm

      I am also a total style dunce. Pretty much all the fashion know-how I have is from “What Not To Wear.”

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    B
    December 2, 2014 at 11:01 am

    I’m horrible at taking selfies. I blame my arms on being too short to get a good angle! You look great though!

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:12 pm

      Thanks so saying so, but I also have tiny T-Rex arms, which make good angles tricky.

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    geekyseamstress
    December 2, 2014 at 11:06 am

    I’ve really enjoyed seeing your photos. I definitely feel that just a little bit of effort can make an impact on how I feel about myself and interact with others. Also, totally love your cat’s eye liner!

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:13 pm

      Thanks! My secret is Dolly Wink eyeliner. It’s got a super-fine brush tip that makes it super easy to do cat’s eyes.

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    Abby
    December 2, 2014 at 2:24 pm

    I really enjoyed your series. I love all your lipsticks and the cat-eye eyeliner. I love lipstick, but I rarely wear it to work because it feels a little “too much” for teaching, if I worked in an office I think I would wear it more.
    xx Abby a geek tragedy

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:14 pm

      Thanks, Abby. It took me a while to get used to wearing bright lipstick, but now I feel kinda naked without it.

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    Natalie Patalie
    December 2, 2014 at 3:30 pm

    I’m so glad you did this! You looked great in all your selfies and your eyeliner is on point 🙂

    • Reply
      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:15 pm

      Thanks so much, Natalie. I’m a little taken aback by all the eyeliner praise. Guess I managed to get good at it without really noticing. 😉

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    Jane Y.
    December 2, 2014 at 4:12 pm

    such a great project mariko!

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:16 pm

      Thanks, Jane.

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    Jessica
    December 2, 2014 at 8:52 pm

    Holy cow it’s already been a month!? Wow November flew by. I love the four outfits you chose, you look amazing in each one! And I suck at selfies… I really hate taking them. I much prefer someone to take a regular photo of me 😀

    Jessica
    the.pyreflies.org

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:18 pm

      I have to get better at selfies because Rick is terrible at taking my picture, lol. And I know, November just whipped by.

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    Celeste
    December 2, 2014 at 10:25 pm

    Congrats on finishing your project! I also lack a surplus of nerdy fashion items but you did a great job with what you have. I enjoyed seeing your selfies throughout the last month. 😀

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:21 pm

      Thanks, Celeste. I’m hoping I can use this as a hint for Rick on what to get me for Xmas this year…

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    Joie Fatale
    December 3, 2014 at 1:04 am

    I loved this series!
    And I don’t think your selfies were narcissistic. You had not only a project, but you were showin ootd’s.
    I also think Selfies can be a mood booster, because learning to be comfortable in the camera you (the user) are in charge of helps you be more comfortable being in pics friends and family take. It’s also a mood/ego booster! 🙂

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      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:23 pm

      Yeah, I think I sometimes worry too much about what other people think, because I really enjoyed this project and my friends and family really seemed to enjoy seeing pictures of me looking put together and happy. I think we need more of that in general. Own your joy, people!

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    Megan Gotch (@thenerdygirlie)
    December 3, 2014 at 11:16 am

    I LOVE the blazer look. I just found a really cute one at F21 that I might go back and pick up. I also love the color lipstick look to brighten a mood! Great job girlie! Keep it up!! xxxxxooooo

    • Reply
      Mariko
      December 3, 2014 at 3:27 pm

      Thanks, Megan!! I need more blazers in my life. I used to be a cardigan girl, but blazers are really just a more “adult” version.

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    margotmeanie
    December 4, 2014 at 5:27 pm

    I loved watching this project. And there is nothing wrong with a wee bit of narcissism when it encourages self care.

    <3

    • Reply
      Mariko
      December 9, 2014 at 4:09 pm

      Thanks, dear. I was surprised at how much fun I had through this whole thing.

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    Skye @ Planet Jinxatron
    December 4, 2014 at 11:50 pm

    So how much do I owe your charity, and how do I send that over? 🙂

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      Mariko
      December 9, 2014 at 4:11 pm

      I ended up donating a total of $40 CDN to http://www.aqps.info/dons/don.php. The site is in French, so if it is easier to send money by PayPal, my account is: mariko[dot]mcdonald[at]gmail.com. Thanks, Skye!

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        Skye @ Planet Jinxatron
        December 16, 2014 at 4:50 pm

        Sent to you to pass along! Let me know if it doesn’t get through.

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          Mariko
          December 23, 2014 at 5:40 pm

          Got it! And donated! Thank you soooo much!

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    Damaris / The cat, you and us
    December 5, 2014 at 7:27 am

    Congrats! I loved seeing your pics at IG, with all the geek details and so put together. I agree that although it is not a complete healer, it is a creative project to think about which can make a change in how each day is faced.

    • Reply
      Mariko
      December 9, 2014 at 4:13 pm

      Thanks, Damaris. I wish I’d been a little more creative with my outfits, but I was more concerned this time around with just having an outfit. Maybe there will be more projects like this in the future, because it really did change the way I saw myself.

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